Spanking Survey

Thanks for all the get better wishes...it is happening, slowly. Have a great weekend all!

SPANKING SURVEY

Have you ever gotten spanked?   

   Well....Yes!  

Are you spanked bare bottomed, over panties, or over clothes? 

   Yes, yes, and yes! 

What is the best thing about being spanked?  
   The closeness, the feelings it brings, the 'hurts so good'!

What position do you get spanked in? 
   Lots,,any position He can think of :)

Have you ever gotten spanked in public? 
   no

What do you get spanked with the most? 
   His hand, and whatever else He chooses.

On a scale of 1-10 how much does the average spanking hurt? 
   Probably a 7...Master feels a spanking should be felt.

Have you ever gotten spanked with a hairbrush?. 
   Oh yes.

Have you ever been spanked so hard that you started to cry? 
   No

Were you spanked as a child? 
   No

Do you think spanking is fun? 

   Unless it is punishment....yes.

Have you ever gotten spanked for bad driving (speeding ticket, etc)?  

   No, I have been warned not to let it happen again.

Have you ever gotten a spanking for no reason at all?   
   Certainly:)

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Have you ever gotten spanked by a teacher? 
   No, my first teaching job allowed corporal punishment, I 
   taught 2nd graders, so there was no need.

Is your butt spankable? 
   Happily, I guess Master would think so.

Are you currently in trouble?
     Not as of today..yet.

Do you get lectured during the spanking?
   If it is punishment...yes.


Have you ever seen someone else get spanked? 
   Not in real life.


Have you ever gotten spanked for cursing? 
   ****..nope

Have you ever gotten spanked for lying? 
   No, that would be a biggie.


Have you ever been spanked with more than one spanking instrument in one spanking session?  
   Have I ever not been..don't think so.

Do you hate spankings? 
   No

How many people spank you? 
   ONE

Have you ever gotten spanked with your butt in the air?  
   Kind of hard to do it while I am sitting...yes.

Have you ever gotten spanked so hard your butt was purple?
   No, have had bruises.

Do you think that spanking is a good punishment? 
   I know it is.
Do you believe spanking has made your relationship better, or worse?
   Better

Is your butt red and sore afterwards? 
   Yes, but never seems to last long enough.

Have you ever gotten spanked with a sneaker? 
   NO

Have you ever been spanked twice in one day?
   Don't think so...depends on long between spankings.


Have you ever asked to be spanked for something you did wrong?
   No need for me to ask

Would you talk about spousal spankings to your friends/family members?                
   Not about any kind of spankings.


Have you ever gotten you butt caned? 
   Yes, I love/hate the cane.


Have you ever gotten spanked with a wooden spoon? 
   Hmm, don't think so.

What do you get spanked for?  
   Maintenance, punishment, fun, good girl, for no reason...

On average, how many times a month are you spanked?

   Probably 6--8


Do your friends know that you get spanked?  
    Only my blogging friends


On a 1-10 scale, how hard would you get spanked for something serious,such as speeding?   
   8/9

Have you ever gotten your butt belted? 
   Yes, can be so yummy?

Have you ever gotten your butt paddled? 
   Yes, not so yummy!


After your spanking is over, how long before you repeat the same offense?       Two spankings for the same offense is NOT a good idea..
Master does not like to think He did not make His point.


Does your spouse enjoy spanking you?
   Master does.


When is the last time you got spanked? 
   I have been sick, a week ago yesterday.


Have you ever spanked yourself? 
   no


What is the worst thing about being spanked? 
   It hurts

How long does the spanking last? 
   When Master decided it is over.


Do you like to be spanked? 
   Yes


Would you describe yourself as a rule follower, or a rule breaker?
   Mostly follower.

Blogger is once again playing a color game with me..sorry!

hugs abby

cough, cough,cough, cough

     UGH..I have spent the last few days in bed...and not a spanking or orgasm or anything close to sexy happening! 

     Lots of coughing, sneezing, and other things I will spare you a description of....it has been a while since I have been sick or had a bad cold, hope this spares me for a long time to come.

    I was going to actually attempt to get dressed today, looked out the window to see heavy, white snow falling, and falling,,and....I put on fresh PJ's!

    I think I have caught up with most of  you, I am relying on you to keep me amused until I can have some fun myself...so .....stop reading and go do something you can post about!! ( only half kidding!)

    and...I checked..this blog is germ free!

   hugs abby

   

Travel tax......

       I am back from my daughter-grandma trip. I spent a few days with my mom, took her for a quick casino trip, and weathered the big storm with her. I then had lots of fun with a 10 month old...she is such a happy, smiley, little thing..and her 3 year old sister...she is quite the drama queen already!  I am so lucky to get to visit...and then to come back home to Master!

     Master and I had our re-connect yesterday...After hugs and a little chat, it was time for me to get ready for kneeling time...I undressed, but forgot...really!...to take my panties off....Master was incredulous, I blamed the time away, and we both had a chuckle.  Master put on the wrist and ankle cuffs..a treat!

      When I was finally naked and kneeling, Master rubbed and poked and pinched all of me, talking softly to me, relaxing me and bringing me to my submissive place.  Master says we have a couple issues to address...ut-oh.

     The first is payment of my travel tax.  A few months ago..maybe 4,  Master decided to impose a travel tax on my trips. His way of getting me to think about how long I will be gone, and to voice other options to my children.  He finally decided that I get 1 week free....He knows those little ones are important and won't be small for long. The second week I am gone, I pay for each day with 5 swats with a paddle of His choice, the third week is 10 swats a day.  Since He instituted the tax I have not been away for more than 1 week....this time it was 1 week and 6 days.....so I had 30 swats with one of His heavy paddles.  Being the nice Master He can be, He 
had me got over His lap, for a long, hand warm-up.

   Then, He had me lean over the ottoman, stick my bottom out, and gave them to me 1 day at a time...each day getting a little harder..the last 5 really had me happy I returned home when I did!
I have to admit, when Master first came up with this idea, I was not sure how I felt, mostly because I just really like to make my own decisions....I know, how unsubmissive of me!  But travel plans had never been something that had to be discussed....I have to admit, the 'tax' has make me think twice about how long to be away....and I do not ever plan to get to the third week stage.  Also, it is nice that He misses me, and wants me here, with Him:}

    The second issue was weight gain...I gained a little over 2 pounds. My daughter-in-law is a great cook and always remembers my favorites and serves them. This time she even came up with an orange-chocolate lava cake....so yummy! Master said He had thought about a basement visit for the gain, but decided that a long, hard hairbrush session would get my attention! I guess that is kind of like...good news/bad news.  I was told to settle in over His lap, for a long session....He started right in....Long hard spanks on one cheek, then the other. It hurt, but I was breathing through them, til He started on the sides of my bottom.  Those had me moving and groaning and ouching....He stopped long enough to say He was glad He was getting my attention and continued. Finally, He stopped long enough to tuck me, and give me a final, very hard, and fast flurry....til the last 10....5 hardest ones...all on the same spot, on each cheek. I was very glad when that was over.  Master is giving me til Monday to post a loss, and no more gains til I get the agreed on 10 pounds off, or it will be a basement visit.

    Master had me relax a bit over His lap, as He rubbed my bottom and gave me some recovery time. Then He started to roam a bit, til He had me forgetting about the burn on my bottom to concentrate on the heat elsewhere. After a couple permissions, it was kneeling time, where i got to show Master how thankful I was...til I was spent, and laying flat on the rug trying to breathe.  

   We finally caught our breath....that was some welcome back!

    hope you have a great weekend..
    hugs abby

thank you Bas!

   What a great idea letting someone know how much they mean to us...that someone is you , Bas!!!

    Your comments are always a joy to read...they make me smile and think...2 very good things!  Your blog is fun to read...you and your darling Lisa are so close and have such fun together. You started off as a blogger who comments, but you have found a way into our hearts. Thank you for being an important part of our little community.

     Many others have posted examples of your words of wisdom, I am getting ready to leave for the airport to head back home, so I don't have time..but I did want to be a part of this special day.

  hugs abby

   

meme...

       We got more snow today, and more coming tomorrow, but it us the typical winter stuff...still Yucky...I have had enough of the white stuff.  Instead of moving on to question 4, I am posting this meme that is making the rounds. Please feel free to copy and participate!

1: Do you like to use post-it notes?
      No, I don't like post-it notes, I am a post-it coholic! I have them in every size, shape and color.  When I taught they decorated my desk and classroom and kept me organized.  I use them for everything! They are always near the top of my Christmas list!

2: Do you take shampoos/conditioner bottles from hotels?

     No, although I might have once or twice.
 

3: Have you ever stolen a street sign before?

     No, for sure on that one...some friends did once, but I just could not do it.

4: Do you have freckles?
    No, none that I can see.

5: Do you always smile for pictures?

     I learned a long time ago....might as well smile, because the picture is going to be taken, and they last a long time. We are a serious picture taking family. We have a closet full of albums..all sorted and tagged! 
  

6: What's your biggest peeve?

     Hmmm,,,biggest......I guess maybe one leftover from my teaching days, parents who want to be their children's best friends...in place of parenting!  As I get older, I find myself with a much stronger live and let live attitude.

7: What's your favorite food?
    Ice Cream, chocolate and lobster...I know that is more than one, the first two are essential, the third a wonderful splurge.

8: What movies could you watch over and over and still love?

    I am not a big movie person, so probably...home movies, yes we have lots of those, too.

9: When was the last time you wrote a letter to someone on paper?

    I actually mail my grandchildren snail mail once a week on a rotating basis. Sometimes a card, or a note...or even a post-it with a message. I want them to know the fun of getting to open an envelope and reading a message meant just for them.

10: Favorite kind of sandwich?

  An italian..the kind found in Maine...a long, soft roll, with salami or ham, tomato, onion, peppers, cheese, oil and vinegar.

11: Best thing to eat for breakfast?

Belgium waffles with strawberries, and a couple slices of bacon.

12.  Do you sing in the shower?
       As a favor to anyone who might hear, I try not to sing any place.

13. What is your usual bedtime?
       Somewhere between 10 and when I get there.

14. Would you pose nude for a magazine or other publication?
        No. 

I realize there are two colors happening here....not sure why or how.

hope you are all having a good weekend
hugs abby

3. Something I never leave the house without

  Hope you all enjoyed a little romancing on this day..or at least a romantic spanking!  I got chocolate covered strawberries and chocolate covered oreos. I have not opened the oreos, think I will leave them here as a surprise for the grands, I am afraid they might just do me in!

   Things are getting back to normal, most schools are open, and it was a nice sunny day.

    I never leave the house without....my cel phone. I think this answer would be the same for most of us. I don't have a fancy do everything phone, just one that calls, texts, and takes pictures.  I first got a cel when I was teaching...in an old building, on the third floor, no phone in my classroom...and teaching junior high. I needed something in case of an emergency and a cel phone was the answer. I rarely carried it with me, just had it in my classroom. Then Mastered entered the picture....and i was expected to always have it with me. It took a little 'persuasion', on His part, but i finally got into the habit of having it with me. 

    It is nice and convenient, especially since most of my family is not local. We can always reach each other. 

    An alternate choice for this answer was Master's voice....it seems to follow me where ever I go.

    hugs abby 

    

2. A Favorite movie

       I love the four seasons, but I sure could do with a little less winter. There is still a LOT of snow out there. My son went to a grocery store Sunday evening, he called to say the only item in the whole produce section was.............radishes. Guess we know the least liked veggie in the Boston area. Schools are closed again tomorrow (Tuesday), hopefully they will finally get all the roads cleared. That being said, I am warm and cozy and spending my days with the most delightful 3 year old and 9 month old.

    I cringed when I read the topic for day 2. I have been to 1 movie this year, but have not been to one in probably 5 years before that. I just got tired of paying to fall asleep.  Way back when I was in college, movies were a weekly event, but since then a rare occurrence.  I am much more a live theater lover these days, and attend those regularly. Musicals are my favorite, but I do not limit myself to that genre. We have quite a selection where I live, and I am fairly close to a couple large cities with all the latest productions..


So, the movie that stands out the most for me is a classic....The Wizard of Oz.   A musical, of course, with great music. But I love all aspects of it...and look forward to sharing it with my grands...soon!

hugs abby

    

1. A place I would like to visit

...Well today the  answer is some place with no wind and snow. We have almost 3 feet and the winds are howling. Reminds me of my childhood, and the huge storms we seem to get then. But I am safe and warm at my sister's, we are thinking we are going to make this a 'stay in your jammies' , watch movies and play games day!

    On to the question...my first thoughts are Hawaii, or a cruise, or some place tropical. Then I think about all the interesting places in Europe, I have been to England, Scotland and Ireland, but that is it for Europe.

     What I would really love to do is....see the USA. I would love to travel across this wonderful country. I have covered most of the Eastern states, and traveled route 1 from Maine to Florida. I want to stop at the National Parks, see Mt Rushmore, the Grand Canyon and the Geysers. I want to research ahead, and find something I want to see in each state. If I find someplace i want to stop along the way we do.....time will not be an issue.  Maybe we could even stop and meet some of you!

Stay warm and safe all
hugs abby

traveling on a 'sore' bottom

   I am about ready to go.....I am packed, except for my carry on, I have sat on my suitcase to close it, my tickets are printed, and I have had my 'you better be good' spanking.

    We started with the usual kneeling time with Master pulling, pinching and mauling my breast. Gently at first, and getting to the point where the pain is all i could think about...til i hear Him say...your turn. I look up at Him, ...he wants me to handle my breast just like He just did. I tweak and mush.....He chuckles and says...I'll show you again. He repeats, finishing with a very painful twist, and i reach up and follow His lead.....only a bit more gently. He is not pleased...and shows my again, only this time, i let the word 'no' come out of my mouth. He tells me to get back in position, and learn from His demonstration, or we could be at this for a long time.  He has His turn, and i finally figure out that i just have to do it. He approves and tells me  that when He tells me while i am away to maul my breast...that is what He wants. He wants it to feel like He is doing it.

    Then it is over His knee, He tells me to get comfortable, I am in for a long, hard session, He wants me squirming on the plane in the morning. He nicely starts with a long hand warm-up, one that  has me starting to squirm at the end. He then picks up something...can't tell what...that is very stingy. He uses it fast, alternating sides, and i am ouching...and it breaks....darn:). It was some sort of thin piece of wood.

    He reaches for a heavier paddle, it hurts, but i am well warmed up, so it is not unbearable. He stops for rubbing and telling me how nice and red and hot my bottom is...then I get another couple sets. There is lots of rubbing and massaging and 'checking' to see how wet i am getting. 
He finally just reaches in and continues to..stir the honey pot...as He puts it, while we chat about my time away. 

  He then says...it has been a long time since we have used the paddle ball paddle. It is a huge, heavy, covering both cheeks piece of evil. I tell Him it is used only  for punishment, He disagrees, and tells me to ask Him to fetch it. I am quiet, so He keeps stirring that pot, reminding me not to cum without permission. I ask Him to stop, He chuckles and asks if i want to ask Him something. I am panting, and squirming and know that i am about to lose control, so i tell Him to go get the paddle. He laughs, and says I have to ask nicely and mean it...as He continues to test my endurance...I finally get my wits about me enough to ask Him to please get that paddle, it has been too long since i have seen it.

   He heads for the basement and is gone for longer than i anticipated. He comes up empty handed..and tells me i can stop praying, He could not find it!!!! Can you believe my luck??

   I am told to get up and bend over the ottoman, while He uses the cane for a couple sets, and then grabs a paddle and says....6 take your breath away ones, you are not to move and thank me. i get the first two out and on the third add a sh**, thank You, it does not count. We finish the 7, Master says i have been a very good girl and took those very well. 

  We settle in, and it does not take me long to ask for permission, and it is explosive, Master continues, and after 2 more, I cannot move, am barely remembering to breathe. We continue to enjoy each other for a bit, Master reminding me, that no matter where i am...i am His...and I come back to Him.

   Usually when i am gone i do not have to report my weigh ins, Master said He will expect them this time,. I argued the...different scales, so it isn't fair, He reminded me, all i have to do is weigh in when  i get there, see how it differs from my scale at home, and i am good to go. I could not talk Him out of it...probably cause i have not exercised all week. 

   Sin, over http://findingmysubmission.blogspot.com/, listed 30 questions a few days ago that she is working on. They are not all about kink, but i think they will give me something fairly quick i can use to keep in touch.

Here's the list: 

1.       A place I’d like to travel

2.       A favourite movie

3.       Something I never leave the house without

4.       A friend I admire

5.       My hometown

6.       Best vacation spot

7.       A song for the day

8.       Three inspirational quotes

9.       A close up of my day

10.   A favourite recipe

11.   Three years ago today

12.   The last item I purchased

13.   Something I’m proud of

14.   A piece of architecture I love

15.   Three blogs I always read

16.   Someone who inspires me

17.   My family

18.   What I wore today

19.   Most memorable of 2013 so far

20.   Something that means a lot to me

21.   A self portrait

22.   What I love about my job

23.   Eight things you don’t know about me

24.   Something that makes me smile

25.   The contents of my purse

26.   Something I’m looking forward to

27.   A favourite restaurant

28.   A skill I’d like to learn

29.   Something I could never tire of

30.   Three wonderful things that have happened in my life

I know i will not post every day, but at least i have something to write about...

I have a 6 AM flight in the morning, i am heading to the New England area...where they are expecting the biggest snow storm of the winter on Friday...figures!

Be good, but not too good while i am away

hugs abby

Thank You Ravens!!

   Neither Master nor i are big football fans, but who can resist a Super Bowl wager?  Master let me pick the team i wanted, i chose the Ravens. I gave Master a couple options of  possible wagers and He chose....a Raven win means a leather maintenance, a San Fran win and it is wood.

     I will admit, i was a little worried going into the third quarter, but was smiling at the end of the game.

    Maintenance was today. After my kneeling and Master's re-claiming time it was OTK for a long hand warm up. Hand warm-ups are such a wonderful way to start a spanking, lots of spanks of increasing intensity, with intervals of massaging, rubbing, teasing, and enticing.
Just as i am about ready to burst, Master decided we should chat about my upcoming trip. I groan,,,He chuckles...just want to be sure I have your complete attention! He does, and He knows I will agree to almost anything.

      Then it is up and over the hammock, Master has chosen the large leather strop. It looks very intimidating, but i love the feel of it. We start with 10 on each side, then another 10 stronger ones. Then it is 20 on each side, still harder ones. Is it just me, i always feel that one side hurts much more than the other, today it was the left side, when He switched to the right , i could feel myself relax.  We ended with 10 more hardest ones on each side. Before He started Master noticed that I still have marks from last Friday.....altho most of the soreness was gone.  Those marks are very enhanced this evening, and my bottom is sore....i love having the soreness last.

     Master added something new today. As He was stropping me He weaved a story. He wanted me to imagine being walked out to the woodshed, having the others in the house watch me go. Once in, and bare, i was laying over a pile of wood, and the stropping started. He talked about why i might be in that woodshed, and what it would feel like, walking back to the house, and having to face the others...knowing that i had been set up by them...LOL.  He is full of surprises. I think He may be related to PK somehow, since He then said, i should write a story or two for Him, and we might be able to set it and play it out. Hmmmm...maybe while I am away.

    After maintenance it was permission and 'flying' time.



   I am leaving Thursday, but I hope to post at least once, if not twice before then..

  hugs abby

"Take your clothes off to warm up"*

   * Quote from Master...will get to it in a bit!

    I have started a couple posts this week, and just could not get the thoughts on paper..or computer.  It has not been the best of weeks...

   First, I want to thank those who nominated me for "The Inspired Blogger" award. I have to admit, after this week, i feel like i should return it.  I have added you to my blog roll, if you were not already there, and i do apologize, but that is about as far as i will get with the rules. I am very thankful for thinking of me!

  Over the last weekend, i decided i need to go visit my mom.  We had to cancel at Christmas, it has been a while since i have seen her. My son also has been wanting me to visit. They live close enough so i could do both in one visit. My son takes care of my travel reservations, so i gave him a couple of dates to work with..he called me on Monday, and i asked him to wait another day to make the reservation...i wanted to let Master know before the plans were set.

  This week.....there was no M/M..no Monday maintenance...it was supposed to happen, but Master had a long, hectic day at work, which happens. On Tuesday, it was supposed to happen, but my daughter had an emergency with the 3 little ones she nannies, so i had to cancel.  Master and i barely had time to talk, i wanted to talk to Him in person about my trip, so i did not text or send an email. I was sure i would see Him on Wednesday.  I told my son to go ahead and make the reservations.

   Wednesday....Master and i had a chat at lunch time, but i did not mention my trip, since i figured i would be seeing Him later. His job went crazy on Him again and it did not happen. 
I sent Master a text, telling Him  to check His email....that night He asked why I had not told  him about the plans , i said i wanted to do it in person. He make a remark...and i don't remember exactly what..that set me off.  I asked what He meant....then said...forget it...we no longer seem to be living on the same planet.....and that ended the conversation. BANG...that was the sound of my submissive halo falling to the ground.

   Thursday morning i text Master the usual good morning, but add..i am not feeling great, not getting dressed, probably will stay in bed. I was letting Him know i would not be seeing Him that day. SMASH..that is me stomping all over my halo. Master says when i start to dig myself into a hole i do not know when to stop...He might have a point. I text Him at noon , instead of calling, don't get a reply. During the afternoon i start to re-think my actions and words...as i pick up the pieces of my halo. After He gets out of work, i get a text inviting me to meet Him. I do debate for about 30 seconds....before i reply...Yes Sir, By now, even i have to admit that i have dug that hole deep enough.(and i miss the glow from my halo.)

   When i get to Master's we hug, i am told to kneel, but stay dressed.  After He relaxes my shoulders, He pulls up a hammock and sits facing me. We talk....about the week, about why we are both now frustrated, about my lack of communicating with Him this week, about where we are now...and finally about how we can prevent this from happening again.  I ask if He is ready to give up...He smiles and says..no, but He has been thinking about a good beating.  We finally reach a better place for both of us, and then just spend time reconnecting.

     I go home to try and rescue my halo.

    Today, we both made time for us.  It is freezing here, i was cold when i got to Master's....not far enough to heat up my car. He tells me to take off my clothes, to warm up. I laugh, and He gives my that eyebrow look. I take them off...and yes, i soon warm up.  Master claims me, concentrating on my breast for a long time, reminding me that i am all His, that i am His pleasure.  I then go over His lap for a very long hand spanking, it has been so long, it feels so good...He stops with frequent rubbing, and i am not only getting warm, but also finally relaxing and letting go.  He asks about maintenance, I say that it is Friday , a little late for maintenance. He agrees, but also says that i still need it, to get rid of my 'antsyness'...

   He points to a piece of lumber...a 2 X 4 across the room and tells me to go get it. I get up, get it, and tell Him how heavy it is...He knows. I hand it to Him and He chuckles..says...it has been a long time since i have seen you look really apprehensive about a spanking. He has me bend over, and tells me to hang on tight, if i move He will start over, and i probably do not want that. The first three are hard and slow...and take my breath away, each spank is like an explosion.  After 3 He asks me how many more i should get, i quietly say 5 total...He finds that a bit amusing. I get 3 quick ones, and it is almost overwhelming. He stops to rub and we chat a bit. Then He tells me 3 more....harder ones.....After the tenth one i feel myself melt, open up, relax, re-find my submission.

   I then am back over His lap, and Master brings me a loud, deep down, explosion...or two...or might have been three...i was lost. We continue to enjoy each other again, Master reminding me how important communication is....we have worked a long time on getting that part right, we need to keep getting it right. We do discuss my travel plans...i am leaving this coming week for some time with my mom, and some time with 2 of my grand--daughters. I pleaded that since i will be staying at 2 different places it is really 2 trips.....Master sees it differently. This is my first extended trip since Master's 'travel tax' law. He says, if i don't come home between trips, it is only one trip...so the tax is in effect.

   When i get back home i start to try to put the shatters of my halo back together...it will take a while, but that is OK....

  hugs...abby
   

"Master-handled"

   Master-handled is the term that Master came up with while mauling my breast. He was very pleased with Himself and said i should share it. I thought it was very apt!

    I loss a pound last week, even though i went away for a 3 day weekend. Master was impressed, since i usually struggle to just stay the same. I had a plan, and i stuck to it, and playing with a 4 year old and an 18 month old is great exercise!

    When i walked in , i noticed Master had the cane out...again.  After my kneeling and master-handling of my breast, i was over His lap.  I was treated to a wonderfully long hand warm-up.  I then expected Master to tell me to stand and bend over for the cane.  Instead He grabs the cane, holds it in the middle, to shorten it, and proceeds to 'tap' my bottom with it. It is more 'thuddy'. instead of the usual sting of the cane. He starts very lightly, and increases in strength, but not too hard. He covers all of my bottom and on my thighs. It really is a totally different sensation. Master has me repeat which part of me is His...all of me, of course.

   Then He is using it on my back. I think He is using the handle part, since it feels thicker than what I was feeling  on my bottom, and it is very "thuddy".  I start to squirm trying to absorb the pain. Master stops and asks how it felt...I tell Him it hurt.  He says really?...and starts in again.
Another round of the same...and yes it still hurts. Finally He is done, and i feel some welcome rubbing!

    I am thinking that was a unique session with the cane, when Master tells me to get up and lean over. Back to the traditional.  After a couple sets with the cane Master is pleased with the read stripes and welts.  He then lets His fingers roam to test my 'readiness', of course i am quite wet.  Master continues to play and when He senses i am close, I am allowed to move and we get comfy. Permissions are granted, i am soon breathless, spent, and so calm.  After some quiet time, i am back between Master's legs, and then i am must laying into Him as we chat and just enjoy being in that special place together.  

   Sometimes i think i can actually feel us getting closer, and this was one of those times. I am not sure why it happens when it does, but it is an amazing feeling...being 'Master-handled'!

hugs abby

    

BRRRR..hope you are all staying warm!

     Winter...bah humbug! Considering I grew up in New England, one might expect I had come to terms with cold and snow....NOPE! Highs in  the single numbers and snow, mean I just want to snuggle in with a good book and ignore what is happening outside. It does work for a few hours a day....

     Today is 2 years since my dad died. When I think about him now, i can do so with a smile, instead of tears. I hear him whistling, i see him teaching his grands to play cribbage, i see His smile as he rocks his great - grands....they are all making you proud dad...

     I want to thank everyone for the responses to my last post on 'asking'.  When I started blogging it was at Master's insistence, I told Him I wanted to stop after my third post. He told me to stick it out for 6 months and then we could discuss it again. I would have missed out on so many new friends, on finding out that I am not alone in my feelings (whew). I love it that you can give me a different perspective on a topic, and make me look at things in a new way. Since I probably have not said it lately.....THANK YOU ALL!!

   Since this past weekend included a holiday...I decided to enjoy some grandma time.  I went to see my 4 year old grand daughter, and her 18 month old brother. When I called my daughter to see if it was a good time, she said she and her hubby were just thinking  than an adult overnight was over due. I was all for it.....After I arrived, they asked the 4 year old if she wanted to go to  hotel with mom and dad or stay with grandma...without hesitation...she said...WHOOPIE!! we will have so much fun with grandma. And we did have lots of fun...i returned yesterday evening, just beating the snow.

    I told Master this morning that today was a good day to just hibernate, He agreed, I could hibernate after my maintenance spanking.  He even let me keep my clothes on..for about 10 minutes..LOL.  We started with kneeling time, and some chat about a bit of attitude He had detected while I was away, and last night.  He then started out on my breast, very gently at first, just as i was relaxing, He started in with the pinching and pulling. He kept saying a little harder, and harder, reminding me how much it pleases Him that i no longer flinch or try to move..

    Then it was over His lap, for a hand warm-up...He started slowly, and increased the intensity with each set. After a few sets, He asked if I wanted the cane or the paddle He had set out. I said..your hand is pretty good. He laughed, but said choose. I knew, if i did not, i would probably get both, so since we have not played with the cane in a while, that was my choice.
Master gave me  sets of 12 each, each one getting harder....during the third set, I was reminded to keep my bottom presented to Him, and to keep breathing. He also very nicely including some rubbing after each set..

     Master then had me lie back down, and checked to see if any part of me had enjoyed my maintenance. Of course, He found a part that had....and He used His magic fingers to bring me right to the edge, He then reminded me that i could not cum without permission, and He was not ready to grant any permission yet. He wanted me so needy, that i exploded, so I had better relax a little, and find some control. I somehow manged to talk myself in to breathing and  keeping still, until I just could not stop...I begged for a permission...it was granted, and i came from my core.....more than once...and was totally spent. When i could move again, i moved between Master's legs, and settled there.

        Just as i got up to get dressed, Master told me to bend back over ....i looked at Him, and did. He picked up the paddle that i had passed on, and asked me how many did i need as a reminder that when i say good night or text Him, that i should include the word Master. I hate making that decision..i thought about 5, but figured that would not fly, so i said 10. He asked if that would be enough to help me remember....Yes Sir. So, I got 10 more hard ones with the paddle. Then i was told i could get dressed...but no undies. I said it is really cold, He agreed, but still said no underwear. 

      Stay warm...or better yet, have someone warm you up!
     hugs, abby
   

Asking...

     A disclaimer..this is me, trying to sort out some feelings, some questions i keep asking myself....not very sexy, or entertaining...continue at your own risk.

     It should be such an easy task...asking for what you need...why is it so darn hard??


     Master has decided that this is the year that i learn to ask for what i feel i need... seems simple enough...I taught English for many years...an interrogative sentence...why oh why is it not that simple?


   A few weeks ago, Master sent me a text giving me a task to do for Him...something He occasionally will do, especially if vanilla life seems to be interfering more than usual.  I can't remember what it was, but i completed it, let Him know, and thanked Him, saying it was just what I needed. His question...then why did you not ask for a task? Honestly, it never occurred to me. I was told...when you feel you  need a task...for whatever reason...ask for one.

   I  have asked twice since then. The first time, He replied quickly with the task....use my bottom toy while i am kneeling for 20 minutes....The next time His reply was, I will give you one later. He did, sucking on my large toy, and then using it to cum. So, I have taken a few baby steps.

   A week ago, as i was leaving from maintenance, Master said....a girl could as for an extra spanking during the week , if she felt she needed it to help her meet her goal. I thought about it on Wednesday, but decided that i was close to my goal, so did not. This past Monday, Master says the same thing as i am leaving. Wednesday morning my good morning text to Master was.....i seem to eat less when i have to sit on a sore bottom...can You help me with that?
His quick reply was...I can and I will. He did...He let me know that getting that text from me, was a great way for Him to start His day. He would love more of  those.

     Master started by asking if i had asked for the spanking to help with my goal, or because i thought it would please Him. I answered honestly...some of both, since i had a lunch date today.  He repeated that it did please Him, and if it helped me...kind of a win/win.   Master used  a paddle, over clothing, then over panties, then on the bare. It was fairly quick, with a little rubbing, close to the intensity of a maintenance. Wednesday night, my bottom was throbbing....

 We also talked about me asking for whatever it is i need...hugs, spanks, orgasms, help with the car..whatever. Easy request...but not for me.

  Why...it does not put me in charge...i am asking not demanding....or wanting...neither of which would get me very far.  I understand that.
  
   It does bring up feelings of neediness, but for the most part, i think i have made peace with those, needing Him, is just what i do. I think it helps me be a better submissive, He encourages it, and He sees it as just a part of me, of Us.

   Laying in bed this morning, I wondered if maybe it is because it makes me feel more vulnerable...i say ..and i feel i do trust Him more than i have ever trusted anyone else.  Being more open and vulnerable by asking, is a part of that trust. Maybe it is time to walk the walk more. 

   I remember few years back, when i was struggling with that 'neediness' feeling. I asked Master..."how much is too much"...His reply...there is no too much, and if there was, i was not even close...maybe it is time to trust that answer.

   Maybe i need to start using more of these ???????

  hugs abby

M/M..His belt

   Yesterday was our regularly scheduled maintenance day. My bottom had just barely recovered from Friday afternoon.

    After kneeling time, i was over His lap for a deliciously long  hand spanking warm up! Yes, it did get  harder as He progressed, but He set a wonderful pace, and i did not want it to end.  He told me he had decided on His belt for maintenance. That gave me something to look forward to. At one point He asked i had enough of a warm up....my mind is thinking...never enough. I hesitated, so He decided to check and see just how much i was enjoying His hand..A LOT!!
He continued to get me wetter, and announced that no permissions would be granted until after maintenance.

   I know better than to cum without permission, so i said i was ready to move on to maintenance.  He had me lay down so that my whole body was supported...a position that is both comfortable and makes it easier to stay in place.  I hear the jingle of the belt being removed...such a special sound.

    He starts in with fairly light strokes, even Master comments that i could probably take a whole lot of these...i agree and encourage Him to continue.  He moves on to another set, stronger, but still feeling pretty yummy!  That long hand warm up, goes a long way to increasing my tolerance.
A few more sets, and he announces...last ones, you are to count, and they will take your breath away!

      I count and remember to add  a Thank You Sir, after each one. He has decided 6 on each side.  They do take my breath away, and my counting forces me to stay in the moment, but, i can also feel my juices flowing.  

      Master tells me how much He loves the way I respond to Him...and He quickly has me begging for a permission.  After the first one, we take it a little more slowly enjoying each others company.  While I am catching my breath we look around the room, and think it would make a pretty good home dungeon...right size, color, just needs some hooks and equipment. Master mentions He has made a portable whipping post, and tells me how...He chuckles and says if I called it a flogger post you would be more excited...He is right!

      My goal this week is 1.5 pounds, I asked Master if we could reduce that to 1 pound...He said no...He wants me to get back to my base...and lose a little. I then asked if He would think about making future goals 1 pounds a week. He said yes...but i continued...saying i really wanted Him to consider it. He said, OK...I considered it, after this week one pound a week it is, a nice steady loss.  That also came with a warning that my weigh in on Friday needed to be 1.5..or...else!.

   Winter is about to make a return to these parts..YUCK!

  hugs abby

part 2 of an amazing afternoon

    Where was i??..oh yes...

     Master gets the next toy, sits beside me. one hand on me, and starts in with what is certainly a small, wooden paddle...maybe a hairbrush. Honestly, i forgot to ask..all i know is, He starts in with sets of around 20/25 increasing His force with each set. By the time he starts in on set 3...I am gone to that wonderful place. I know He is still paddling me, but there is no pain, there is no sound, i am totally relaxed, not jumping or moving. I have no idea how long He continued, I remember feeling Him rubbing my bottom and saying, 'that was quite a nice build-up'. All i could do is smile.

    Once i am alert, He loosens my wrist ties, and unties my ankles and tells me to get up on my knees and spread them so i am fully exposed. I try, but can only get one leg in place. He repeats what He wants, and I say...I can't. He says He will help...and that leg is not moving....He checks..and VOILA... He forgot top untie that ankle restraint. He is not quite perfect..LOL. Once He unties it, i get up into the position He wants.

       He is rubbing my bottom and i feel that He is inserting my bottom toy. I tell myself, relax breathe, but He always reaches a point, where i resist. He tells me to relax, and i am able to, and it is in. He plays with it for a while, twirling and pushing asking me how it feels, at the same time He has reached around and is playing with my pussy. He decides I need both holes filled, so He gets my large vibrating toy, and now i am full. He is playing with both, i am just trying to breathe and not cum. He notices i am getting very wet...chuckles and says He will give me permission...just not yet. When He is finished, He pulls both out, totally unties me, and tells me to get on my back. 

      I always feel more vulnerable and open on my back, for a long time i would always try to cover up.  Master is looking for something, telling me  to spread my legs and arms. He returns holding clothes pins.  I do not remember those being in His bag. He pinches one on each of my nipples, shows me that He has two more....and attaches those to my pussy. It does pinch, but the pain is not terrible. Master starts to pull on one of my nipples, elongating it. He decides He needs a picture. He takes one, thinks the breast should look longer, pulls it more, and takes a pic He is happy with. Since He is a symmetrical type of person, we repeat with the other breast.  
    
   He then uses the 2 finger strap, to go up and down my front, between my legs, on my pussy. He repeats that process with the crop, which reaches more places, but feels much nicer. He then decides to remove the pins. He starts with one breast, takes the clothes pin off, and immediately starts to lick and suck, cooling me off. He repeats with the second breast, until i am squirming. He then removes the remaining 2 clothes pins and gives me a wonderful hand pussy spanking. That could have gone on longer....

    Master looks at me and says, still worried you can't play hard....LOL....no Sir.  Master 'checks' and decides it is time to grant a few permissions. Wise man, He did not expect me to ask, He just gave me permissions....we finished with Him laying beside me and me back on my safe, furry spot. Then......it was nap time...we are not as young as we used to be!

       As i was getting ready to leave, Master told me to choose a toy from the table for my last spanking. I looked them over carefully, and noticed the horse hair. Not as good as the large leather flogger, but it is the one toy i like Him to use both front and back. He uses it for a bit, them pulls me over His knee, so we can end with a hand spanking.

      Truly, an afternoon to remember!

      hugs abby

Cuffs, Rope. Leather, clothespin and.........

Yep...it was that kind of afternoon!

     My weigh in report this morning was down 2.5!!! More than was expected..since i traded in 1 pound for wearing a plug earlier this week.  I was happy, and i knew Master would be. Master tells me to keep my afternoon open to Him...for an extended empty the bag play time! We have not had one of those in a very long time. My first reaction was WOW..finally...followed by YIKES..what if i can't take all that, what if i disappoint Master, what if....Then reason prevailed, this Man knows me inside and out, He knows how to get me where He wants me to be, He cares for me....how foolish of me to worry.

   I warned Master, that i would post a disclaimer..i am not sure how much of this afternoon i can accurately write about, i spent a lot of time in that place that is all sensation and little awareness. What a wonderful afternoon:)

  I had been saving some special undies i bought a bit ago, I decided this was the time. My All lace black bra coupled with a pair of red, lace, crotchless (when the bit of ribbon keeping them closed was untied).  My underwear got to stay on longer than it usually does...

  We started as we always do, me kneeling, Him claiming. Then it was over His lap for a quick hand spanking. We then took a break...LOL...just to lie together, me in my 'safe spot' buried in his hairy chest. We chatted , we totally relaxed, we almost fell asleep!

   Master had me get up and get my cuffs, ankle and wrist. He clipped my wrist cuffs together behind me, then told me to go get the clover leaf paddle. I looked at Him...go on, the toys are laid out on the table. I walked over, and managed to turn around pick up the paddle and bring it to Him.  He told me to get over His lap, not an easy task, when my wrists are clipped together behind me...I sort of just plopped down....not very graceful. Master started in slowly, and picked up tempo and force, until my bottom was warm and rosy. 

  I mentioned that it was getting too warm in the room, it has been unduly warm here, a great January thaw!....but i needed some air. I expected Him to turn on the air, or open a window. He did open a window and a screen , one facing the back. He called me over and I started to put my head out of the window, when i was told to stick my breast out, i looked over at Him....waiting. I picked up my breast and stuck them out of the window, looking around to make sure, no one could see.  I assured Master that i was soon cool enough to continue.

  Then it was on the bed, on my tummy, spread eagle, being tied. Master believes that bondage should not be a comfortable, relaxing position, i was stretched, but i could feel the excitement start to grow . He debated about flogger or whip first...flogger is my #1 choice...always! I suggested a flogger sandwich...He chuckled, 2 floggings for 1 whipping! He did start with the flogger, from my neck down to my ankles, making the trip several times, increasing in intensity. Since the very beginning, the sensation of  Master flogging me, sends me to a wonderful place, the harder the more i feel myself melting into it.  Then it was whip time...it has been a long time since Master has had the pleasure of whipping me...i think it is His favorite.  It takes me sometime to get used to the sting, as opposed to the thud of the flogger.  Master is soon in His rhythm, striping me all over, leaving me with an all over tingling feeling.

    Then I feel something, large and cool on my bottom and back..Master is holding it down. I think...acrylic paddle...i am right, and Master starts to paddle me.  I have never liked that paddle, but this afternoon it was amazing, i wanted more, and was trying to urge Master on...
Then crop...Master calls it His helping hand, the end of it is shaped like a hand. I have always liked the crop..it is leather, and reaches in to all sort of interesting places. He tried to give me a 'tattoo' with it on my thighs, and then proceeded to continued up and down my body...reaching into every nook and cranny....lite taps, strong thumps, keeping me guessing. I was truly floating off to that wonder place we all crave.  He then traded the crop for the double tailed strap and repeated the pattern. In between toy changes, there was always a nice massage, taking some of the heat, and relaxing me even further. 

   I am going to stop, it is late.,..and i still have lots of fun to fill  you in on...so i am going to make this a 2 part post....i need to go have sweet dreams!

hugs abby

A wake up text!

     Yesterday was M/M day....it has been a while since we have had a maintenance Monday.  I have come to rely on it to keep me centered and calm....and to keep those darn little troublesome voices away.

     We started as always, with my kneeling before Him, feeling his hands over all of me. He started to concentrate on my nipples, pinching and pulling, my hands left their 'position' and reached up to stop Him...that has not happened it a long time!  He calmly told me to put my hands back where they belonged, and proceeded to 'maul', as He put it, my breast for quite a while. 

      It was then time to get OTK, for a long, vigorous hand warm-up. We talked about my goal for Friday....3 pounds lighter. I said I had loss 1 pound, but did not think i would get to 2 more in  5 days. He asked about exercise, I had used the wii that morning, for 33 minutes, but that was only the second time this year. He also reminded me that I had lunch at a great burger and fry place on Sunday. I asked if He would change the goal....He said, no...but if I came within a couple ounces i might avoid a basement visit....those are to be avoided at all costs.

     When I had walked into the room, i noticed a thick slab of wood...a new paddle Master called it...i said i hoped it wasn't His...it was....then that i really hoped it was not for me...it was.
It was time for me to get up and lean over the ottoman.  Master said, He had decided on 10...but because of my remarks about the paddle, i was now getting 12. I groaned, then He told me to count them and thank Him...i groaned louder...He chuckled. "Keeps you in the moment and anticipating".  They were slow, deliberate, and hard. I had to be prompted on my reply once and was warned that anymore prompting would result in a repeat. We finished, and Master was hugging me and allowing me to rub, when He grabbed hold of my hair and made look toward the basement door. If we go down there, you know it will be worse, and there will be no fun time afterwards. It is not where I , nor you, want to be, but I will not hesitate.  I nodded.

      Time for more enjoyable pursuits....as many of you so nicely put it....dancing our dance. We were ready, it was fairly quick, with me just asking for permission seconds before needing,  it.
More kneeling time, and then time to continue with our day....As I was heading out, Master made some remark, and i rolled my eyes...did not think He was looking,,,,and swat, one more with that 'paddle'....

      Back to the title of this post...i send Master a good morning text, often, before i get out of bed. This morning, i reminded Him that this was my book club day. I hear my phone buzz...check for His good morning reply and read.......'wear your plug to book club, and take 1 pound off your goal'. I have to read it a second time, and laugh. I know the minus 1 pound is Master being kind....i also know the plug task is Master being Master...reminding me, pushing me......I thank Him and accept the deal.

      Master has been  hinting lately that He is itching for a long, empty the toy bag session....we used to have those fairly often , it has been a long time....I gave up hoping they would happen. Stay tuned....maybe....

     have a great week..
     hugs abby

Dominance is....

  Just some thoughts that seem to be floating in my head today....


  Dominance is...

~~Knowing that you are the one in charge, ....but also knowing that submission, freely offered, is a gift to be treasured.

~~Having a hard hand, one that can be used to send a message....but also a soft heart, knowing that hugs, are important also.

~~Listening to your partner....but more importantly hearing what that partner is saying and sometimes not saying.

~~Taking control, being the strong one....but appreciating the strength that is needed to submit.

~~Being wise in making decisions for the two of you....but also using that wisdom to admit mistakes, and offer apologies.

~~Enjoying the many ways your submissive brings you pleasure.....but also realizing that returning that pleasure, brings you both more pleasure.

~~Realizing that what is on the inside is also important....and be willing to put in the hard work necessary to tear down walls, to allow your partner to open up completely.

~~Speaking words that sometimes admonish and urge to better behavior....but also knowing the power of all words, and being sure to add the loving and kind and encouraging words.

~~Proving that You are consistent and trustworthy.....and watching "your other half" become vulnerable and open to You.

~~ Accepting your partner as they are.....but also wanting to make that partner the best they can be.

  How do I know all of this.....I am lucky enough to have such a Master!

hugs to all
abby

First spanking of 2013

       Master and i finally had some 'just us' time yesterday. Time to reconnect in our special way, time to talk, spank, cum, and breathe freely.

         Master believes in being generous with His hugs and His spanks.  We started with the first, proceeded to my kneeling time. Master was rubbing all over as we chatted, and gently playing with my breast. As He helped me up He commented that He had not pulled or squeezed.....i smiled and replied...at least not yet...which caused Him to chuckle. We do know each other quite well.

        Then it was over His lap, for a wonderfully long hand spanking, with lots of rubbing. I felt myself totally relax and finally let go. He decided to give me a set on my thighs, just to remind me that all of me is His...they woke me up!  He would occasionally let His finger wander, just to be sure I was enjoying His 'attentions'...and was still awake! I was then told to get fetch my toy bag, I am supposed to have it so He can reach it, and I did not. The first thing He pulls out, is the froggy paddle...the one that used to be a children's toy. The pain is all surface pain, but the quick stingy spanks make for a wonderful warm-up.  Next came my small leather strap, more of a deeper pain, but after a nice warm-up, the kiss of the leather was what i craved.

        Master checked....to see if "she" was also enjoying His efforts. Of course "she" was, this time we were in accordance....truth be known, "she" and i do not always agree....much to Master's pleasure.  Just as i was getting where i am moaning and trying to urge Master on, He asks if i want maintenance now or later.....I did not want an interruption, but i knew i would be 
'jello' later......so i took a deep breath and agreed to now.

         I was told to lean over the ottoman, legs spread, and to my surprise say Him holding His cane. I looked at Him....He said yes...the cane. He reminded me that maintenance is a deterrent to punishment, so even tho i had not been spanked in a while, He chose the cane.  At least i had  a warm-up....but that first swish had me gasping...there is no such thing as a a light tap with that cane.  After the first set of 6 on each side....He stopped so we could discuss my decision to  lost another 10 pounds (at least). I had weighed myself yesterday, and i was 1 pound above my wriggle room....i need to lose 3 pounds to get back to my last goal. Master took that news pretty well, and declared that i needed to get back to my goal weight, by a week from Friday....10 days for 3 pounds...He knew that would require real effort, so he strongly suggested that the wii come back into my routine. I wish I could walk, but there is over a foot of snow and it has been freezing here!!  I agreed, and maintenance continued. Another set, and i was just trying to breathe through them.  He commented that I was doing well...last set. These were harder and 10 to a side, He had me on my toes, and forgetting everything else. 

      After rubbing my bottom for a while, He decides to check on 'her'. Even she had not totally enjoyed this maintenance, and had dried some....He proceeded to rectify that, and I was soon squirming and pain was not my main thought, Master asked if i wanted to cum over the ottoman or someplace more comfortable, still having some of my wits about me, i chose to move.

      Once we a settled, Master continues to get me closer to asking, when He decides to chat. I let out a moan of frustration...He comments, He just wants to be sure He has my full attention. He wants me to repeat the terms of my getting back to my goal......I ask if we could re-negotiate those terms....thinking maybe i could get a better deal. Master says ....sure....would you like me to punish you for going above your wriggle room or maybe....I stopped Him...knowing where this was going and agreed to the 3 pounds by next Friday...and then no gaining til the extra 10 pounds were gone.  Master smiles with that smug look and proceeds to get me to the edge of cumming,,,and tells me to cum for Him...i do....i do...and i do again.....i can no longer move, breathing is all i can manage, as I lie there totally spent and satisfied.

        Master finally asks me if i can move, and i am between His legs, thanking Him, as we end up in a tight hug that lasts for a while. 

          A great start to the new year....

          hugs abby



       

Happy New Beginning...

  Each day is a new beginning, but we seem to realize that more when that day is January 1st.

  It has been 10 days of much sadness, mingled with much happiness, such is life. Thank you all for your caring notes and support.  We managed lots of family time...which means lots of hugs, love, laughter and yes..tears. We looked out for each other and supported each other, we are family.

   Master has also been very supportive. Staying close, and when we could manage reminding me, that I am also His....His submissive. Just this evening, when I mentioned that my submissiveness seemed a little elusive....i was soon plugged and kneeling, and it was no longer elusive. 

      I gave up making resolutions years ago, they just led to frustration and disappointment. Now, i have Master, and i know that any improvements, or better habits that i want to develop, He will give me all the motivation i need. I am going to try and lose some more weight, i have requested Master's help, especially with the exercise component..i have really let that go. 

     I wish you all a year of health, happiness, growth, and the making of lots of wonderful memories. Oh yes...also lots of interesting blog entries for me to read!! ( I have lots to get caught up on!)

hugs abby