If you have been reading here for a while, you know that Monday is typically maintenance spanking day. In fact, lately i have been wondering if maybe you are getting bored with my Monday reports, and if i should not report on each one. Anyway, today when i asked Master for a suggestion for a title, He thought, and then said He wanted me to write about the benefits of maintenance, as we see them. Not exactly the answer i expected, but like the good subbie i am, here is the post.
Maintenance today was pretty standard. Some naked kneeling time, Master claiming me, pinching and tweaking my nipples....telling me that He was milking...not the nipples, but the part of me that starts to drip with all the nipple attention. Then it is over His lap, for a too short hand warm-up before He starts in with the maintenance paddle. It is umm..small to medium, highly polished...and can pack a wallop. Today, it is a very short hand warm up before i feel the coolness of the paddle. I comment on the short warm up...He replies...warm-up is not over, He has just switched to the paddle. I am tempted to argue the point, but a paddle warm-up is better than starting right in with the main event.
He lets a couple lighter ones land on my thighs.....as a reminder that they are always a possible target. We then move on to the 'main event'. A couple rounds of much harder ones, a slight break with some rubbing, then a tuck-in, and a final much harder set...i am ouching and i even let a...'that's enough' slip out. He stops, reminds me why we have maintenance, and starts in again. Finally He decides it is enough, and we can proceed to more fun activities.
The benefits of maintenance....for us
....A little background, it has been almost 4 years since we started maintenance spankings. They have been tweaked a bit, and some things have changed, but one thing has not......they happen every week. I doubted this when we first started, but unless one of us is away for the whole week, it has happened every single week, Lately if one of us is away, Master will give the the missing spanking either before the week, or i get double after.
....CONSISTENCY....one of the big benefits. There are no spanking 'droughts', no wondering on my part:
when will the next spanking be or even will there be another one
is He still interested in spanking me
do i want this more than He does
I know, at least once a week i will get spanked. Those 'voices' that used to plant doubts and questions have been quieted.
....TRUST...yes, i trusted Him before we started maintenance, He would never have spanked me otherwise. But i have to admit, after we first discussed maintenance, and He said it will happen every week, one of my first thoughts was....i wonder how long this will last. He is a man of His word....it has been 4 years, and He keeps reminding me, it works, so He is not about to change things now.
....LESS PUNISHMENT...punishment spankings are a part of out relationship. When we first started, they were the type of spanking i received the most often. For a lot of reasons, i think new relationships are 'iffy', I wondered if He really would follow through, could i have found someone who really was more stubborn than i was, would He tire of me??
Master's idea of maintenance is to deter punishment spankings, so He makes maintenance an event i do not want repeated....or even have a harder event take place.
.....US...time for Us. No matter how crazy life gets, no matter how busy, it is a priority to carve out some special 'Us' time each week.
....GROWTH...I believe that because of all the above, maintenance has helped me to grow in my submission. I thought back earlier, to the differences in me, in Us, in my submission since we started maintenance. It has been an important factor in getting me....us....where we are today.
A place i could never envisioned, a place of wonderment , of discovery, of fun, a place where i know i belong...be it over His lap, or on it...or just by His side.
I am not advocating for maintenance, we are all different, our 'dynamics' are all different. I am merely writing what Master asked me to write, a review of why we have maintenance spankings, and how they have helped us.