Saturday, June 8, 2013

Pushing Limits

    Limits are a tricky subject....I believe everyone has limits. I also believe that limits are not static, they can and often do change over time. Master and i have never discussed specific limits....When we first met the list would have been very long....and honestly, a lot of those things I now look forward to...We also believe that a relationship should not stay stagnate....it is great to be in a 'good place', and enjoy it, but for a relationship to thrive there has to be growth...

     I have been sensing and noticing lately that Master seems ready to push some limits. The look in His eyes, the tone of His voice, the warnings He has issued...He had me anticipating...then yesterday morning...

   Before i even had a chance to text a Good Morning Sir!, I get a text....".wear both sets of cuffs, put in your large bottom toy and come see me". There's something new.  He gives me about an hour. I text back....large one? I have not used it in a while. For many of you it would probably only be a medium one...but i do prefer the smaller one. He replies...yes.

    I quickly shower and attempt to get it in...after a couple attempts i think, maybe i should just put the small one in and bring the other one with me.  I know that is not what He wants ( and it is later confirmed..it would not have been a good idea).  I finally succeed, see that i am running a little late, and the phone rings. It is my sister, we have been playing phone tag, and i do need to talk to her.  A short conversation with  her is usually about 30 minutes, but i mange to hang up after 10.

    I am a little late getting to Master, He accepts my reason, but warns me that if He gives me a time, that is when He expects me.  We chat a bit, and Master gets 'the look' and asks about my daily task. I reply, i have been laying over pillows with my bottom bare. He says yes, but the same task every day? I look at Him, confused...that is what you wanted, the same task for a week.  Seems i misunderstood Him, He wants a different task every day for a week, before i can repeat one...ahhh. That really makes more sense, since we were talking about it not being so 'routine'. I agree to adjust, and Master gives me some suggestions for new tasks. All of them contain the phrase...with your large toy inserted.  Do you see a pattern here?  He then says, I also want you to up your time to 15 minutes (from about 5 minutes).  I repeat His wishes...so there is no misunderstanding....and agree. Finally i am invited over His lap.

   He gives me a wonderfully long hand spanking, stopping to play with the plug, which i hate to admit, is getting me very wet.  He then decides to slow it down, and slowly gives me 50 harder ones...still with His hand. He then asks me about exercise. I reply, saying , I have been walking outside.  "Everyday this week?", He asks.  It remind Him that the day before i went to the casino with a friend (brought back all of my money!!), and it was raining all day. He reminds me that there is a mall near by, and i do own a wii....He gets the shamrock paddle from the bag, and says 25 hard ones. When He is done, He asks if i want 25 more for today, or will i find the time to walk. I guarantee Him i will find the time. " No more wriggle room, young lady, I expect you to do something at least 6 days every week".  UGH...but i, of course, agree.

    After some wonderful play time which ends with me barely being able to put two words together.....Master wants to chat some more.  He feels it is time to push more limits, limits that will probably make me feel uncomfortable .  He reminds me that He expects me to give it my best, but that also, He wants to hear what I am feeling and what my fears are....He reminds me , that i do have a voice and He expects me to use it.

      This morning i am getting ready to do one of my new tasks...for 15 minutes...and decide to text Master and let Him know what I am doing. He replies with........more than the minimum makes Me happy.......YEP, He's in a pushing mood!

  hugs abby

22 comments:

  1. Isn't it funny how we thrive on being pushed, and love pleasing them? I'm generalizing, I know. The way you describe this feels so familiar though. Enjoy!

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    1. It is true, there is nothing better than pleasing Him, and knowing He will push me to more.
      hugs abby

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  2. Well done abby. Yep. It is part of our nature to please. Nice post.

    Hug,
    joey

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    1. Thanks joey, I remember the moment I realized I would do anything for this man,,it was scary...but...fulfilling too.
      hugs abby

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  3. Keeping it fresh makes it fun.

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    1. Master would positively agree with you!
      hugs abby

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  4. Wow! I have to say I love it when Sir pushes. It is wonderful to try new things or go for longer. I also love that he is so consistent with your exercise. That is a great gift.

    I hope your new limits are pushed successfully. Good luck.

    hugs,
    fiona

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    1. It is good to try new things...He sure does not how to not let me get complacent.

      hugs abby

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  5. Hey Abby,

    It sounds as though you are doing so well with meeting his expectations. Good on you!

    Stepping outside of our comfort zones can be so difficult to do, but the results are so worth it. I like that he wants you to share your thoughts, fears etc with him.

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. Master is the perfect mix and solicitous and masochist....
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  6. Good post abby
    I liked the way he asked you his questions right where you are the most comfortable over his knee.

    Bob

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    1. Yes, I used to complain about that....but now, it is often where we end up chatting.
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  7. you have such wonderful communication with one another and trust. Pushing beyond limits and boundaries is an extension of that trust it seems. :-) Nice. Hugs

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    1. Without complete trust exploration would not be possible..it took a long time to get to that trusting place.
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  8. Hi Abby, :)

    Sounds like you have a good man there, helping you grow, and try new things. I like how you thought about just doing the plug thing the easier way, but then you gave it a shot and successfully obeyed Master's wishes. Good for you. It really is all about trust, isn't it?

    And I agree, the consistency with the exercise thing that he is giving you is awesome. You can do it! :) Hugs!

    <3 Katie

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    1. Thanks for the exercise encouragement. I do have a good man and a fantastic Master...and I realize how lucky i am..altho HE says He is the lucky one
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  9. Dear abby,

    I love your blog so much. I admire the way you are trying to please your Master.

    I thank you for your kind comment on my blog. For some to me unknown reason your comment isn't appearing.

    Hugs.

    appy

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    1. Pleasing Him brings me joy...thanks for visiting, my friend.
      hugs abby

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  10. Oh my, ... I do not know how I would react ..
    I know it is all about trust and communication.
    Ok now maybe a stupid question: Why do you have push some limits. Is not it enough as it is?

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    1. Great question..and I will at least give you my thoughts on it in a future post..thanks for giving me something to think about.
      hugs abby

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  11. There are times when I think I would LOVE to be pushed, other times absolutely not. I never know which mood I'm going to be in. I guess Nick's not very much into pushing anyway.

    Enjoy!
    PK

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    1. Pushing limits is a tricky thing..i am going to do another post on it..thanks for visiting..and hope you are enjoying the summer vaca!
      hugs abby

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