Sunday, January 6, 2013

Dominance is....

  Just some thoughts that seem to be floating in my head today....

  Dominance is...

~~Knowing that you are the one in charge, ....but also knowing that submission, freely offered, is a gift to be treasured.

~~Having a hard hand, one that can be used to send a message....but also a soft heart, knowing that hugs, are important also.

~~Listening to your partner....but more importantly hearing what that partner is saying and sometimes not saying.

~~Taking control, being the strong one....but appreciating the strength that is needed to submit.

~~Being wise in making decisions for the two of you....but also using that wisdom to admit mistakes, and offer apologies.

~~Enjoying the many ways your submissive brings you pleasure.....but also realizing that returning that pleasure, brings you both more pleasure.

~~Realizing that what is on the inside is also important....and be willing to put in the hard work necessary to tear down walls, to allow your partner to open up completely.

~~Speaking words that sometimes admonish and urge to better behavior....but also knowing the power of all words, and being sure to add the loving and kind and encouraging words.

~~Proving that You are consistent and trustworthy.....and watching "your other half" become vulnerable and open to You.

~~ Accepting your partner as they are.....but also wanting to make that partner the best they can be.

  How do I know all of this.....I am lucky enough to have such a Master!

hugs to all


  1. You are lucky indeed. Nice love letter to Master.

  2. Have to print this out and hang it next to my computer.

  3. Excellent thougths and great List! I will print as well.



  4. You are definitely very lucky abby and your list is an inspiration to those of us who are still looking. alice

  5. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! (On another note...I like the color coding in the post as well)

  6. oh i liked this so much!! you are blessed, as i feel I am to have BIKSS. (hugs)

  7. It's interesting Abby--we don't use the word "dominance" in our relationship, but so much of what you said here still rings quite true. So many similarities in our differences--one of the things I love most about this community.

  8. Sunny..thanks,,,we talked about the post today..and how neither of us expected to be where we are today...a very good place! hugs abby

    Bas....what a nice thing to say....Master called it my philosophical side...but it is what He has shown me. hugs abby are welcome....Master and I both always say we are both lucky. hugs abby

    Alice....keep looking and hoping...I met Master when I was 50...and was not looking for anything long can happen!
    hugs abby

    SNP...Thanks for noticing the color..I am such a no tech knowledge person!
    hugs abby

    Fondles....a am blessed....He was worth waiting for! hugs abby

    Susie...I never realized when I started blogging, what a wonderfully supportive community I was joining..our differences make us special....hugs abby

  9. What lovely thoughts, glad you shared.

  10. Lovely :) It illustrates how much our D-types give to us, there really is so much's gorgeous!