Sunday, December 23, 2012

Sadness ...and joy

   Sadness was the day I was supposed to be traveling to my son's house, where my daughter and her family would join us, and we would celebrate Christmas together, then travel to celebrate again,  with my mom, my siblings and their families. My plans changed on Friday; in an early morning phone call i learned that my nephew's 25 year old wife had died during the night. They live where i do. We had been expecting a call that her dad had died, so at first i was confused, but no it was not the dad, but the daughter...most likely a seizure. They  had just closed on a house the day before.  Yesterday, her dad died. There is comfort in the thought that they are together. Later this week, I will be going to a father/daughter funeral. 

  Joy...Last Friday when i returned home after a long emotionally and physically exhausting day, i sat to call my daughter and son. We had been in contact during the day, but they wanted me to call when i got home, and i did need to hear their voices. My daughter first, i tell her that obviously our plans for the holiday have been canceled...she tells they have changed. She and her hubby decided to bring some Christmas joy to 'grandma'...they will be here coming here. I then called my son, and He told me he and his wife had been working on changing their work schedules, they will be leaving for a long drive on Wednesday, to bring Christmas to 'grandma'. I asked if he had spoken to his sister..he had not yet, was going to call her after he talked to me.  
I told him looks like we will be all be together and this lucky 'grandma' will have 4 beautiful little faces with her to remind me of the joy, love, and hope of this holiday..

I won't be around for the next week,
but i wish all of you that same joy, love and hope.
hugs abby


  1. Oh that is sad and happy too. And I cried just a little for you.

    All the best this holiday.


  2. So much happens at this time year - every time I see an ambulance in motion the last few days, I am saddened, but I know that God is calling all angels home for the holidays.

    Big hugs and a merry Christmas... fantastic that they can come to you this time. :)

  3. Oh abby, I'm so sorry for your loss. How wonderful though that both your kids had the same thought and are able to make it so you can all be together. Have a wonderful holiday with your family, hug them all extra tight :)

  4. Oh Abby! I'm sorry for your family's loss... We will keep you all in our prayers.

    You are truly blessed to have such great kids to come visit you when you need their presence so dearly ;) Surely a testament to their upbringing.

    Merry Christmas!


  5. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad your kids can make it home to you though.
    Hugs and prayers,
    Mrs. D

  6. I'm so sorry, Abby, please accept my sincere condolences. A father and daughter funeral? How immensely sad.

    Hugs, Julia

  7. I truly am sorry for your loss. Sudden loss is the worse. But my goodness, you have raised some wonderful children. They obviously think a great deal of their mother. I hope this is a special Christmas for all of you.


  8. So sorry for your loss. It's always sad but even more devastating when it's this time of year and she was so young. At least she and her dad are together, there is comfort in that.

    I agree with PK. You have some wonderful children. I am so happy you will not be alone but have those beautiful grandchildren and children to celebrate. Hugs, prayers and blessings to you and your family.

  9. i'm so sorry for your loss.... but happy that your family will be gathering around you.

    have a blessed christmas!

  10. I am so very sorry for your loss! Tragic.
    You are blest to have a family that drops everything to be with you sharing in this great sadness. Supporting each other through the tough times is what is important.
    I am so glad you will be able to celebrate with your family this Christmas.

  11. Abby, I am so sorry to hear of your loss! Special thoughts for your family at this time.

    I hope your time with family is a good one. Merry Christmas and hugs to you!

  12. I am sorry to read about your loss. It must be difficult to have a Merry Christmas,
    Yet I wish that to you.


  13. Ah Abby, sorry to be late to comment, but not been around either. So sorry for your terrible loss, but also so so happy that you and your family were together this Christmas xxx

  14. Had my own loss and have not been around much. I can not even comprehend a father/daughter funeral. That is one of the saddest things that I have ever heard. Will certainly keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.